Monday, April 18, 2011

And now I'll give a blunt and possibly offensive addition to what my mom said. Being Trevor's friend may not be the best way to be Trevor's friend during this recovery. What do I mean by that? Well, there's a good chance that a lot of you will want to let Trevor do things we aren't okay with in order to be the cool friend. But that is going to do nothing but hurt him at this point.

During Trevor's first rodeo, many of his "friends" found it appropriate to let him do a number of brain-damaging activities without my mom's approval. They took it to the point of even blocking my mom and I from their Facebook albums displaying pictures of Trevor drinking beer, smoking cigarettes, etc. They took Trevor away from the house and failed to check in with us to tell us what they were doing or when he would be back. Their excuse was that it was an invasion of Trevor's privacy. However, when someone has gone through six brain surgeries, even if they appear normal, their judgment may not be. So no, it is not okay for Trevor to be anywhere without his family's approval.

The poor attempts at being Trevor's friend didn't kill him last time; but this time they will. If you feel the need to hide what you're doing with Trevor from his family, there's a good chance you shouldn't be doing it and there's a good chance you aren't actually his friend. If you think we may be overprotective or if you think you know what's best for Trevor, then you're wrong. We've been here for the past 75 days and trust us, Trevor's life isn't something that can be put on the line anymore.

So if you want to be Trevor's friend, then be Trevor's friend. Help him recover but don't let him do the normal 22-year-old activities that you probably enjoy. Don't try to take him away from the house because although it may be fun for him, it's not going to help him. He's a porcelain doll stuck in a grown-ass man's body, and we don't want him to shatter. It would be quite the mess to clean up!

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